THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Childhood Trauma Healing
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Heal after narcissistic abuse. Do you want to disconnect from narcissistic or toxic relationships? Are you feeling stressed and lonely in dysfunctional family and work environments, or social groups? Are you ready to heal after narcissistic abuse? In this podcast, you’ll find holistically healing solutions to set you free from narcissistically abusive relationships, trauma-related health issues, and the enabling of toxic behavior. My mission is to help you heal after narcissistic abuse through holistic health, trauma support, and boundaries. If you’re ready to disconnect from dysfunction and prioritize your healing after narcissistic abuse, then you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Lesley. A wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse survivor. For years, I rationalized toxic relationships and dysfunctional environments, in an effort to find connection, purpose, success, and peace. I fell for lies, fake opportunities, and empty promises, wasting my time, talents, and money. It took a toll on my mental health (Hello, CPTSD!); and it almost cost me my life…literally. I finally realized that if I was going to break the cycle and heal my childhood trauma from the inside out, I needed a holistic approach. I reclaimed and redirected my resources towards solutions that helped me to put the narcissists in my life in my rear-view mirror. After applying some stealthy strategies for drama-free exits, protecting my peace, and pursuing my goals, I was determined to help others to identify, navigate, and heal from this insidious form of abuse. I went to school and became a Master Certified Health Coach and Certified Trauma Support Specialist. And I’m here to teach you how to heal after narcissistic abuse. If you’re ready to experience healing after narcissistic abuse that focuses on YOU; holistic health and wellness solutions with real results like greater clarity, confidence, a more positive mindset, healthy boundaries, and better relationships – this podcast is for you! Take a deep breath in…Let it out slowly…And just relax, this time is for you. Contact: support@lesleycain.com Instagram: @thevibrantsurvivor ***DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only. Any reliance you place on this information is strictly at your own risk. Lesley Cain is not a doctor, therapist or counselor. If you need healthcare, medical attention, therapy, or counseling, please seek professional help from a licensed practitioner.
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Friday Apr 28, 2023
Friday Apr 28, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 ways to disconnect from the narcissist in your life. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, narcissistic and toxic individuals will use and abuse you, in order to get their needs met, for as long as you allow them to. You may not be able to easily get away physically or relationally from a narcissist, especially a co-worker or a family member. However, you can create space, despite the chaos that narcissists create, to gain clarity, put healthy boundaries in place, prioritize your health and wellbeing, and give yourself closure. It's time to get creative and conserve your precious resources: your time, energy, attention, money, and more!
If you, or someone you know, needs some ways to disconnect from a narcissist, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Apr 21, 2023
Friday Apr 21, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share my definition of a narcissist. The DSM-5 offers a list of diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personality disorder, including: lack of identity or sense of self, grandiosity, a sense of entitlement, lack of empathy or compassion, lack of intimacy, antagonistic, attention-seeking, inability to self-regulate. There's some overlap with other personality disorders, like borderline. This is based on a pathological, or disease-based model, as opposed to a holistic, or salutogenic model. Everyone has a back story, including the narcissist in your life, which can provide more insights into why they behave the way that they do. Hint: It may have something to do with what has happened to them over the course of their lifetime. Regardless, there are some whose baseline of operation in the world is more destructive to others. And narcissists are going to go through a cycle of love bombing, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering, in any relationship they're involved in. So, it's important to understand who and what you're dealing with, and evaluate how you're being treated, so that you can decide if an individual or relationship aligns with your core values and goals, or if it's detrimental to your health and well being.
If you, or someone you know, thinks they may be dealing with a narcissist , this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Apr 14, 2023
Friday Apr 14, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 5 narcissistic workplace red flags, based on feedback that a retail executive received during a recent review. Where there is hard work required and a high standard of excellence, narcissists will always take the shortcut. Specifically, they will try to get you to lower your standards, so that they can feel more comfortable and competent.
If you, or someone you know, is being asked to dim your light on the job, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Apr 07, 2023
Friday Apr 07, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 8 ways the narcissist punishes you. When the narcissist feels hurt, they will react by punishing whoever they feel is responsible. They do this in an attempt to protect their fragile ego and regain control of a situation, so they can feel better. This can happen with a narcissistic co-worker or boss, friend, neighbor, a narcissistic parent, in a toxic marriage with a narcissistic partner, or other romantic relationship. You may not even realize that the narcissist is hurt because their behavior takes center stage, replacing clear communication
If you, or someone you know, is being punished by a narcissist, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Mar 31, 2023
Friday Mar 31, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 10 signs of a narcissist at work. Dealing with narcissistic co-workers or bosses can be tricky to identify, navigate, and heal from. Office politics, bullies, pressure to produce and perform, and your ongoing exposure to the stress of the professional playground games they play, can threaten your health and well-being.
If you, or someone you know, needs validation or help identifying a narcissist at work, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Mar 24, 2023
Friday Mar 24, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I talk about how your narcissistic boss is wreaking havoc on the job. You can find the article that I referenced here. Dealing with narcissistic leaders in your workplace can be stressful, draining, hinder your productivity, and threaten your ability to support yourself and your family. Limited options and layoffs can further complicate your situation, during an economic crisis.
If you, or someone you know, needs a description of the damage that narcissistic leaders cause in your organization, this episode is for you. It validates your experience, and offers some solutions.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Mar 17, 2023
Friday Mar 17, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I talk about ways to heal emotionally from narcissistic abuse. Dealing with the emotional fallout from the abuse can be challenging, especially if you were taught and trained to suppress your emotions in your family of origin or other relationships.
If you, or someone you know, needs emotional healing from narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you. It validates your feelings, and offers several ways of healing.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Mar 10, 2023
Friday Mar 10, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I use an email communication breakdown to show you how you can identify and respond to red flags with healthy boundaries, after narcissistic abuse. ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and other traumas in your life can contribute to ignoring red flags, not trusting your gut, and engaging with people who don't have your best interests at heart.
If you, or someone you know, needs to sharpen their discernment and develop strong boundaries, this episode is a must. It validates your need to prioritize yourself and your wellbeing, as you navigate personal and professional relationships, and interact with strangers.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Mar 03, 2023
Friday Mar 03, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I call out 6 benefits of changing your phone number after narcissistic abuse. Narcissists use you to get attention, approval, and/or admiration, in an effort to regulate their emotions. When you figure out who and what you're dealing with, and disconnect from the relationship or situation, they will blow up your phone to try to regain control and get their needs met. This can further traumatize you, keep you stuck in the past, and ultimately compromise your health and wellbeing.
If you, or someone you know, needs to change their number after a narcissistically abusive relationship, this episode is a must. It validates your frustration, and gives you a glimpse of peace and healing.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Feb 24, 2023
Friday Feb 24, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 10 things that happen when you disconnect from a narcissist. Narcissists take you through an abusive cycle of love-bombing, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering. When you figure out who and what you're dealing with, and remove yourself from the situation, it triggers a traumatic response in the narcissist. Simultaneously, it sets you up to start healing from the abuse.
If you, or someone you know, has disconnected, or needs to disconnect from a narcissistically abusive relationship, this episode is a must. It provides a heads-up on what to expect.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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