THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Heal and thrive after narcissistic abuse. Do you want to disconnect from narcissistic or toxic relationships? Are you feeling stressed and lonely in dysfunctional family and work environments, or social groups? Are you ready to heal and thrive after narcissistic abuse? In this podcast, you’ll find holistically healing solutions to set you free from narcissistically abusive relationships, trauma-related health issues, and the enabling of toxic behavior. My mission is to help you heal and thrive after narcissistic abuse through holistic health, trauma support, and boundaries. If you’re ready to disconnect from dysfunction, prioritize your healing, and reclaim your power after narcissistic abuse, then you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Lesley. A wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse survivor. For years, I rationalized toxic relationships and dysfunctional environments, in an effort to find connection, purpose, success, and peace. I fell for lies, fake opportunities, and empty promises, wasting my time, talents, and money. It took a toll on my mental health (Hello, CPTSD!); and it almost cost me my life…literally. I finally realized that if I was going to break the cycle and heal my childhood trauma from the inside out, I needed a holistic approach. I reclaimed and redirected my resources towards solutions that helped me to put the narcissistic and toxic people in my life in my rear-view mirror. After applying some stealthy strategies for drama-free exits, protecting my peace, and pursuing my goals, I was determined to help others to identify, navigate, and heal from this insidious form of abuse. I went to school and became a Master Certified Health Coach and Certified Trauma Support Specialist. And I’m here to teach you how to heal and thrive after narcissistic abuse. If you’re ready to experience healing and empowerment after narcissistic abuse that focuses on YOU; holistic health and wellness solutions with real results like more clarity, discernment, confidence, a more positive mindset, healthy boundaries, and better relationships – this podcast is for you! Take a deep breath in…Let it out slowly…And just relax, this time is for you. Contact: support@lesleycain.com Instagram: @thevibrantsurvivor ***DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only. Any reliance you place on this information is strictly at your own risk. Lesley Cain is not a doctor, therapist or counselor. If you need healthcare, medical attention, therapy, or counseling, please seek professional help from a licensed practitioner.
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Friday Jun 02, 2023
Friday Jun 02, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I talk about 6 things to look for, when vetting people in your life. I know how hard it feels to muster the courage and take time out of your busy schedule to do fact checking and background checking, especially when you've already engaged with someone new. Really? No one has time for that! But the reality is that we're living in desperate times, and the internet provides a lot of access to any and everyone. And narcissists and toxic people know this. Whether the relationship is personal or professional, you need to do your due diligence. Trauma can fuel and forge desperate situations and toxic relationships. However, if you're willing to cast off any pre-programmed, boundary-busting messages from your own past, and prioritize your health and wellbeing, you can enjoy healthy relationships as part of your lifestyle.
If you, or someone you know, are considering new relationships and need help vetting people, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday May 26, 2023
Friday May 26, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I'm sharing 3 ways to make your spa time safer. As a former massage therapist, self-proclaimed spa maven, and narcissistic abuse survivor, I know how hard it can be to open up about your triggers and express your needs going into a session. Dealing with narcissists is stressful; and you just want to relax and enjoy some YOU time. Trauma runs deep; and depending on where you are on your healing journey, a spa session could set you back. However, when you communicate your needs, you can enhance your wellbeing with a healing treatment.
If you, or someone you know, wants to make their spa time safer, after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday May 19, 2023
Friday May 19, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 12 things the narcissist in your life will never tell you. I know how confusing it can be, when you come out of the fog and the narcissist's lies become apparent. You've wasted your precious time energy, money, and attention propping up someone who has lied by commission and omission, while you did the heavy lifting in the relationship. Trauma fuels a lot of narcissistic behavior...and it works both ways. However, if you're willing to face the truth and do the work, you can disconnect from the narcissist, clarify the chaos, and redirect your resources toward a healthier life and relationships.
If you, or someone you know, needs help understanding what lies behind the lies that the narcissist has told and sold to them, why they bought it, and what to do about it, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday May 12, 2023
Friday May 12, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
Happy Early Mother's Day! In today's show, I share 3 things you can do to help save the day, despite the narcissist's behavior. I know how sad, frustrating, and exhausting it can be, when the narcissist tries to ruin your special day. And with Mother's Day coming up, I thought we should talk about it. You may not have been taught how or why to set boundaries. As a result, you may have been exposed to the stress of special occasion sabotage attempts by the narcissists in your life. I was...on many occasions.
If you, or someone you know, needs help saving their special day and savoring their self care, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday May 05, 2023
Friday May 05, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 things you can do to build your confidence, when it comes to advocating for yourself after narcissistic abuse. Childhood trauma, toxic relationships and environments can make it very hard to speak up for yourself - even as an adult. And the fear of retaliation or backlash is REAL! It's not about creating drama, or getting anyone into trouble. It's about recognizing and responding when relationships are causing you to compromise your core values, tolerate disrespect, and deteriorate mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Regardless of your situation, you can grow through what you're going through, learn a lot about yourself and others, be an agent of change, prioritizing and protecting your health and wellbeing. You may be pleasantly surprised.
If you, or someone you know, needs help speaking up for themselves, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Apr 28, 2023
Friday Apr 28, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 ways to disconnect from the narcissist in your life. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, narcissistic and toxic individuals will use and abuse you, in order to get their needs met, for as long as you allow them to. You may not be able to easily get away physically or relationally from a narcissist, especially a co-worker or a family member. However, you can create space, despite the chaos that narcissists create, to gain clarity, put healthy boundaries in place, prioritize your health and wellbeing, and give yourself closure. It's time to get creative and conserve your precious resources: your time, energy, attention, money, and more!
If you, or someone you know, needs some ways to disconnect from a narcissist, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Apr 21, 2023
Friday Apr 21, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share my definition of a narcissist. The DSM-5 offers a list of diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personality disorder, including: lack of identity or sense of self, grandiosity, a sense of entitlement, lack of empathy or compassion, lack of intimacy, antagonistic, attention-seeking, inability to self-regulate. There's some overlap with other personality disorders, like borderline. This is based on a pathological, or disease-based model, as opposed to a holistic, or salutogenic model. Everyone has a back story, including the narcissist in your life, which can provide more insights into why they behave the way that they do. Hint: It may have something to do with what has happened to them over the course of their lifetime. Regardless, there are some whose baseline of operation in the world is more destructive to others. And narcissists are going to go through a cycle of love bombing, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering, in any relationship they're involved in. So, it's important to understand who and what you're dealing with, and evaluate how you're being treated, so that you can decide if an individual or relationship aligns with your core values and goals, or if it's detrimental to your health and well being.
If you, or someone you know, thinks they may be dealing with a narcissist , this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Apr 14, 2023
Friday Apr 14, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 5 narcissistic workplace red flags, based on feedback that a retail executive received during a recent review. Where there is hard work required and a high standard of excellence, narcissists will always take the shortcut. Specifically, they will try to get you to lower your standards, so that they can feel more comfortable and competent.
If you, or someone you know, is being asked to dim your light on the job, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Apr 07, 2023
Friday Apr 07, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 8 ways the narcissist punishes you. When the narcissist feels hurt, they will react by punishing whoever they feel is responsible. They do this in an attempt to protect their fragile ego and regain control of a situation, so they can feel better. This can happen with a narcissistic co-worker or boss, friend, neighbor, a narcissistic parent, in a toxic marriage with a narcissistic partner, or other romantic relationship. You may not even realize that the narcissist is hurt because their behavior takes center stage, replacing clear communication
If you, or someone you know, is being punished by a narcissist, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Mar 31, 2023
Friday Mar 31, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 10 signs of a narcissist at work. Dealing with narcissistic co-workers or bosses can be tricky to identify, navigate, and heal from. Office politics, bullies, pressure to produce and perform, and your ongoing exposure to the stress of the professional playground games they play, can threaten your health and well-being.
If you, or someone you know, needs validation or help identifying a narcissist at work, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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