THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Heal and thrive after narcissistic abuse. Do you want to disconnect from narcissistic or toxic relationships? Are you feeling stressed and lonely in dysfunctional family and work environments, or social groups? Are you ready to heal and thrive after narcissistic abuse? In this podcast, you’ll find holistically healing solutions to set you free from narcissistically abusive relationships, trauma-related health issues, and the enabling of toxic behavior. My mission is to help you heal and thrive after narcissistic abuse through holistic health, trauma support, and boundaries. If you’re ready to disconnect from dysfunction, prioritize your healing, and reclaim your power after narcissistic abuse, then you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Lesley. A wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse survivor. For years, I rationalized toxic relationships and dysfunctional environments, in an effort to find connection, purpose, success, and peace. I fell for lies, fake opportunities, and empty promises, wasting my time, talents, and money. It took a toll on my mental health (Hello, CPTSD!); and it almost cost me my life…literally. I finally realized that if I was going to break the cycle and heal my childhood trauma from the inside out, I needed a holistic approach. I reclaimed and redirected my resources towards solutions that helped me to put the narcissistic and toxic people in my life in my rear-view mirror. After applying some stealthy strategies for drama-free exits, protecting my peace, and pursuing my goals, I was determined to help others to identify, navigate, and heal from this insidious form of abuse. I went to school and became a Master Certified Health Coach and Certified Trauma Support Specialist. And I’m here to teach you how to heal and thrive after narcissistic abuse. If you’re ready to experience healing and empowerment after narcissistic abuse that focuses on YOU; holistic health and wellness solutions with real results like more clarity, discernment, confidence, a more positive mindset, healthy boundaries, and better relationships – this podcast is for you! Take a deep breath in…Let it out slowly…And just relax, this time is for you. Contact: support@lesleycain.com Instagram: @thevibrantsurvivor ***DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only. Any reliance you place on this information is strictly at your own risk. Lesley Cain is not a doctor, therapist or counselor. If you need healthcare, medical attention, therapy, or counseling, please seek professional help from a licensed practitioner.
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Friday Oct 20, 2023
Friday Oct 20, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
Do you know what food labels and narcissists have in common? In today's show, I’m sharing 4 steps to learning how to read food labels and identify a narcissist. There are correlations between the two that can impact your health, for better or worse.
With all of the food confusion out there, knowing how to read labels is a must. As a consumer, you deserve to know exactly what you’re getting. Considering the chaos that the narcissist creates, this skill can help to sharpen your discernment when it comes to narcissistic and toxic relationships. Even with this knowledge, we can all struggle to make healthy lifestyle choices. It’s about progress, not perfection. So, go for growth!
If you, or someone you know, could use some information on reading food labels and identifying a narcissist, for improved health and wellbeing, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Oct 13, 2023
Friday Oct 13, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
Are you triggered by toxic traditions that involve inappropriate behavior towards children? In today's show, I’m offering 4 ways to help your child set boundaries and break generational cycles of trauma. The same principles can apply to you, regardless of the nature of your relationship.
As difficult as it may be, trauma-reinforcing encounters can spark crucial conversations with your child that can be healing, and set them up for life as adults. No opportunity, institution, program, or person is worth sacrificing your health and wellbeing!
If you, or someone you know, have experienced someone behaving inappropriately towards your children (or towards you), this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Oct 06, 2023
Friday Oct 06, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m sharing 3 tips for handling and accepting the death of a narcissist close to you. When the narcissistic or toxic individual in your life is gone for good, it takes a toll on your physical, emotional, and mental health. Clean-up is messy. But you don’t have to do everything yourself, or white-knuckle it.
You can tap into the healing power of a community - even if you don’t associate with them on a regular basis or consider them “your people.” Under the circumstances, people are more willing to accommodate you than you think. The narcissist may be all over the place; but you can pull it together with the help of others.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced the death of a narcissist close to you, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Sep 29, 2023
Friday Sep 29, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m sharing 4 tips for handling and accepting the death of a narcissist close to you. It’s easy to get caught in fight, flight, or freeze mode OR stuck ruminating over your toxic relationship. When this happens, you can lose sight of the fact that both the narcissistic relationship and the narcissist have expiration dates.
So many emotions come up, when the narcissist in your life dies. And you may feel pressure, internally and externally, to get over it and move on. That’s not healthy for you, nor does it help others.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced the death of a narcissist close to you, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Sep 22, 2023
Friday Sep 22, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m providing 4 things for you to consider, if you're questioning, "Am I the narcissist?" Narcissism is a spectrum, and we're all on it together. Ideally, like many things in life, you want to avoid the extremes of selfishness or selflessness. Somewhere in the middle is just right.
Highly narcissistic individuals aren't in their bodies, lack self-awareness, and use other people to meet their basic needs. And they're unable to sustain healthy relationships, although they may fake it in the short term.
If you, or someone you know, have questioned whether or not you're the narcissist in your toxic relationship, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Sep 15, 2023
Friday Sep 15, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m highlighting 3 key ingredients in narcissistic word salad. Word salad is a specialty that the narcissist serves up to their targets; and it is not made with love. It comes from a place of fear. Simply put, it’s not healthy.
Narcissistic and toxic individuals use word salad to manipulate and exert control over situations, narratives, and other people. It’s confusing, draining, and used to protect their fragile ego when they feel threatened. And these “threats” could be real or perceived, past or present.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced narcissistic word salad, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Sep 08, 2023
Friday Sep 08, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 ways to support another narcissistic abuse survivor, who may not have listened when you tried to warn them about their toxic relationship. Oftentimes, you can see someone else's situation more clearly than you can see your own.
Narcissists use charm, mirroring, lies, future-faking, and trauma bonding to draw you in, trick you into falling in love with yourself, and keep you stuck in an abusive relationship, so they can get their needs met. If you know, you know. And sometimes, these relationships can last for years, leaving you drained mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially. The last thing that you need is for someone to say, "I told you so!" You need support from people who love you unconditionally, and who get it.
If you, or someone you know, are trying to help another survivor who has just realized they've been dealing with a narcissist, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Sep 01, 2023
Friday Sep 01, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I provide 3 steps to overcoming narcissistic triangulation with your siblings. Narcissistic parents, who pit their children against one another, create unhealthy relationship dynamics and can set future generations up for failure.
At the root of it all, narcissistic and toxic individuals triangulate in order to boost their own egos and mask their deeply-rooted insecurities. Some may even get a sick sense of satisfaction from creating a competitive environment among their children, without doing the deeper work of nurturing them as individuals and encouraging healthy connections and camaraderie among their offspring.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced relationship rifts among siblings, due to narcissistic triangulation, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Aug 25, 2023
Friday Aug 25, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I list 5 things that narcissistic enablers say or do, when you challenge the narcissist’s behavior. Enablers appear in all types of relationships; and they can be just as difficult to deal with as the narcissist in your life.
At the end of the day, narcissistic enablers try to avoid the social discomfort that exists in narcissistic relationship territory, in order to continue to get their needs met by the narcissist. They see the narcissist’s toxic behavior, rationalize it within themselves and to others, in order to avoid conflict and being wrong about choosing to engage in a relationship [of any kind] with the narcissistic or toxic individual.
If you, or someone you know, need to disconnect from narcissistic enabler behavior and create space for healthy relationships, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Aug 18, 2023
Friday Aug 18, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I highlight 3 ways that narcissistic females and fake friends try to appear supportive, while they’re seething with jealousy and rage. These ladies could be part of a friend [or other social] group, business associates, or your relatives. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, they’re fakin’ while they’re hatin’; and I’m going to tell you how.
It's literally impossible to love someone and be jealous of them, or rage-filled, at the same time. And you can feel the discomfort in your body, as narcissistic women in your life try to cover up their contempt for your pursuit of relationships and opportunities that don’t revolve around them.
If you, or someone you know, have a narcissistic female or fake friend in their life, who becomes irate when you express your independence, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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