THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Childhood Trauma Healing
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Heal after narcissistic abuse. Do you want to disconnect from narcissistic or toxic relationships? Are you feeling stressed and lonely in dysfunctional family and work environments, or social groups? Are you ready to heal after narcissistic abuse? In this podcast, you’ll find holistically healing solutions to set you free from narcissistically abusive relationships, trauma-related health issues, and the enabling of toxic behavior. My mission is to help you heal after narcissistic abuse through holistic health, trauma support, and boundaries. If you’re ready to disconnect from dysfunction and prioritize your healing after narcissistic abuse, then you’re in the right place! Hi, I’m Lesley. A wife, mom, and narcissistic abuse survivor. For years, I rationalized toxic relationships and dysfunctional environments, in an effort to find connection, purpose, success, and peace. I fell for lies, fake opportunities, and empty promises, wasting my time, talents, and money. It took a toll on my mental health (Hello, CPTSD!); and it almost cost me my life…literally. I finally realized that if I was going to break the cycle and heal my childhood trauma from the inside out, I needed a holistic approach. I reclaimed and redirected my resources towards solutions that helped me to put the narcissists in my life in my rear-view mirror. After applying some stealthy strategies for drama-free exits, protecting my peace, and pursuing my goals, I was determined to help others to identify, navigate, and heal from this insidious form of abuse. I went to school and became a Master Certified Health Coach and Certified Trauma Support Specialist. And I’m here to teach you how to heal after narcissistic abuse. If you’re ready to experience healing after narcissistic abuse that focuses on YOU; holistic health and wellness solutions with real results like greater clarity, confidence, a more positive mindset, healthy boundaries, and better relationships – this podcast is for you! Take a deep breath in…Let it out slowly…And just relax, this time is for you. Contact: support@lesleycain.com Instagram: @thevibrantsurvivor ***DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only. Any reliance you place on this information is strictly at your own risk. Lesley Cain is not a doctor, therapist or counselor. If you need healthcare, medical attention, therapy, or counseling, please seek professional help from a licensed practitioner.
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Friday Sep 15, 2023
Friday Sep 15, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m highlighting 3 key ingredients in narcissistic word salad. Word salad is a specialty that the narcissist serves up to their targets; and it is not made with love. It comes from a place of fear. Simply put, it’s not healthy.
Narcissistic and toxic individuals use word salad to manipulate and exert control over situations, narratives, and other people. It’s confusing, draining, and used to protect their fragile ego when they feel threatened. And these “threats” could be real or perceived, past or present.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced narcissistic word salad, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Sep 08, 2023
Friday Sep 08, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 ways to support another narcissistic abuse survivor, who may not have listened when you tried to warn them about their toxic relationship. Oftentimes, you can see someone else's situation more clearly than you can see your own.
Narcissists use charm, mirroring, lies, future-faking, and trauma bonding to draw you in, trick you into falling in love with yourself, and keep you stuck in an abusive relationship, so they can get their needs met. If you know, you know. And sometimes, these relationships can last for years, leaving you drained mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially. The last thing that you need is for someone to say, "I told you so!" You need support from people who love you unconditionally, and who get it.
If you, or someone you know, are trying to help another survivor who has just realized they've been dealing with a narcissist, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Sep 01, 2023
Friday Sep 01, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I provide 3 steps to overcoming narcissistic triangulation with your siblings. Narcissistic parents, who pit their children against one another, create unhealthy relationship dynamics and can set future generations up for failure.
At the root of it all, narcissistic and toxic individuals triangulate in order to boost their own egos and mask their deeply-rooted insecurities. Some may even get a sick sense of satisfaction from creating a competitive environment among their children, without doing the deeper work of nurturing them as individuals and encouraging healthy connections and camaraderie among their offspring.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced relationship rifts among siblings, due to narcissistic triangulation, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Aug 25, 2023
Friday Aug 25, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I list 5 things that narcissistic enablers say or do, when you challenge the narcissist’s behavior. Enablers appear in all types of relationships; and they can be just as difficult to deal with as the narcissist in your life.
At the end of the day, narcissistic enablers try to avoid the social discomfort that exists in narcissistic relationship territory, in order to continue to get their needs met by the narcissist. They see the narcissist’s toxic behavior, rationalize it within themselves and to others, in order to avoid conflict and being wrong about choosing to engage in a relationship [of any kind] with the narcissistic or toxic individual.
If you, or someone you know, need to disconnect from narcissistic enabler behavior and create space for healthy relationships, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Aug 18, 2023
Friday Aug 18, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I highlight 3 ways that narcissistic females and fake friends try to appear supportive, while they’re seething with jealousy and rage. These ladies could be part of a friend [or other social] group, business associates, or your relatives. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, they’re fakin’ while they’re hatin’; and I’m going to tell you how.
It's literally impossible to love someone and be jealous of them, or rage-filled, at the same time. And you can feel the discomfort in your body, as narcissistic women in your life try to cover up their contempt for your pursuit of relationships and opportunities that don’t revolve around them.
If you, or someone you know, have a narcissistic female or fake friend in their life, who becomes irate when you express your independence, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Aug 11, 2023
Friday Aug 11, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I breakdown 3 triangulation tactics of a narcissistic parent. This manipulative tactic is very damaging. And it, among other toxic behaviors, undermines what could otherwise be healthy relationships.
You may have missed this tactic when you were growing up. However, it's one of the narcissist's go-to's. And children suffer most, when the narcissist behaves this way.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced the relational strangulation that accompanies narcissistic triangulation, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Aug 04, 2023
Friday Aug 04, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 6 tips to more effectively engage with the narcissist's other supply. While engaging with other sources of supply is often discouraged, you may choose to do it anyway. And, if you're going to do it, you should have some tools, so you can be successful.
There are many different types of narcissistic relationships; and no two are the same. If you can safely and successfully engage with other sources of supply, then be prepared.
If you, or someone you know, have already decided to engage with the narcissist's other supply, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Jul 28, 2023
Friday Jul 28, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I highlight 7 narratives that you've been told, sold, and forced to uphold for most of your life, that compromised your boundaries, and led you to tolerate narcissistic and toxic relationships. If you come from a narcissistic family, you know the struggle.
It's time to ditch these outdated narratives, set strong boundaries, and change the course of your family history!
If you, or someone you know, are tired of tolerating toxicity and ready to shake your family tree, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Jul 21, 2023
Friday Jul 21, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
Today's show is about exposing a narcissist. I know how tempting it can be to call out their bad behavior publicly. But it can be very tricky, backfire on you, and disrupt your healing process. And you've already suffered enough. I share 7 things that can happen, plus a bonus, so you can count the costs.
If you, or someone you know, is seeking "exposure closure," after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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Friday Jul 14, 2023
Friday Jul 14, 2023
Hey, Survivor!
Today's show is loaded with TMI, as I give you some scoop on poop. I know how stressful it can be to deal with a narcissist, especially a narcissistic parent. I'm being gut-level honest about some unpleasant ways that narcissistic abuse can affect your health and wellbeing. I had to go there!
If you, or someone you know, is feeling anxious and is doubled-over with a "funny tummy," after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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